writing

Not everything, just my best stuff.

essays & opinion

Why I'm quitting Grindr for good in Out Magazine (print and digital) / 2025

Dying gay bars? There's a sobering upside in Out Magazine (print and digital) / 2023

Why traveling is a queer experience in Out Magazine (print and digital) / 2021

It's time to talk about gay steroid use in Out Magazine (print and digital) / 2023

Author Alexander Cheves on why he moves often in Out Traveler / 2022

Turning 30: what it means when you're gay in Out Magazine (print and digital) / 2022

I'm wary of the hype surrounding HIV “cures” in them / 2019 

Why I got a biohazard tattoo for Pride in The Body / 2019

AIDS panic should not be a defining queer experience in Plus (print and digital) / 2018 

World AIDS Day: how I found hope after my HIV diagnosis in them / 2018

Straight folks, there are some spaces you don't belong in in The Advocate / 2017

Why an AIDS foundation's crusade against PrEP is on the wrong side of history in VICE / 2016 

The porn industry needs your love in The Advocate / 2016

Why I didn't come out as Poz on World AIDS Day in The Advocate (print and digital) / 2015

Matt Bomer helped me embrace my gay identity in Project Q / 2014 

identity & culture

Does the leather community have a Nazi problem? in Out Magazine (print and digital) / 2025 

Is latex the vanguard of kink? in Document / 2022

Can fetish be fashion? in Out Magazine (print and digital) / 2021

poetry

Our Dogs in Artemis / 2013

The Brickmakers in Artemis / 2013

relationships

In defense of gay monogamy in Out Magazine / 2024

What makes a single queer man desirable in 2023? in Out Magazine (print and digital) / 2023

21 tips for opening up your relationship in The Advocate / 2021

5 things I learned from dating a bi guy in The Advocate  / 2015

sponsored content

She won’t play with my butt! for b-Vibe / 2022 

Finding the right sex toy for your queer body in Them / 2020 — sponsored by Lelo

The ultimate guide to anal sex in Out Magazine / 2017 — sponsored by Bespoke Surgical

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