My Love Is a Beast: Confessions

Alexander Cheves

ISBN: 9780991378036

Hardback; 220 pages; 5”x7.5”

Publication Date: October 12, 2021

Unbound Edition Press

USD $27.95

"Writerly aplomb most authors never find." "A page-turner...a must-read." "Will catapult to the top of Queer book offerings." "A much needed and influential voice...this book cements Cheves as an important author." "A rare memoir." "Savor every word of this literary bacchanal."


How does the devout son of evangelical Christians, growing up dedicated to mission work in Africa, become one of America's leading sex columnists and a self-avowed slut committed to kink as his new religion? Across his debut book, My Love Is a Beast: Confessions, Alexander Cheves details his path from piousness to faithlessness, and his awakening to the saving power of hedonism. He tells intimate stories of what he sees as the sacred grace of pleasure as he embraces his life as a sex writer, worker, and activist. In stories richly lyrical, boldly erotic, and fearlessly honest, Cheves takes readers on a tour through Savannah, Atlanta, San Francisco, Los Angeles, and New York City. Along the way, he explores the darker corners of Queer culture and his own life, highlighting experiences most will have never considered. His rise to national popularity among LGBTQ+ writers gets balanced by his own struggles with and recovery from substance use - and his public embrace of kink and fetish as a belief system, way of life, and identity. In the end, Cheves writes with complete, even shocking transparency and authenticity in the service of shattering sexual shame. Graphic and at times controversial, this book is sure to become a watershed moment among erotic memoirs.


Alexander Cheves, one of America's leading sex writers, is best known for his work as a contributing editor at The Advocate and his widely read "Sexy Beast" column. He is currently a columnist for Out Magazine and also runs the popular Love, Beastly advice blog, notable for its frank, unflinching answers to questions about Queer sex. His work has also appeared in VICE, Them, and other magazines. He is a recipient of a 2021 Excellence in Journalism award from the National Lesbian and Gay Journalists Association. Cheves is a graduate of the Savannah College of Art & Design.


"A much needed and influential voice, Cheves shocks while also liberating and healing....This book cements him as an important author."

Dr. Chris Donaghue, host of Loveline and author of Rebel Love and Sex Outside the Lines

"Conceptually combustive...exceptionally brazen, epiphanic queer writing...much akin to...Jack Kerouac." 

Jim Piechota, Bay Area Reporter 

"A rare memoir....provocative and poetic. I loved every uncomfortable's a must-read."

Diane Anderson-Minshall, CEO and Editorial Director, Pride Media and author of Queerly Beloved: A Love Story Across Genders and four novels 

"Savor every word of this literary bacchanal."

Race Bannon, Author and Community Leader

"Cheves tells his story of early gay life as it should be told: terrifying, daring, angry, and so very fragile."

Christopher Harrity, The Advocate

"This book is a poignant rebellion against the constant pathologizing of all things Queer."

Amariah Love, MS, NCC, LPC

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