March 17, 2022

Sex writer Alexander Cheves will be a featured panelist at SXSW, "Tech and the New Fluidity of Male Sexuality," hosted by Sniffies

Queer is cool, and the rigidity around male sexuality is crumbling. Now more than ever, attitudes around sexuality are more liberated, mercurial, and permeable. One in six Zoomers identify as something besides “heterosexual,” and expressions of gender and sexuality are becoming more accepted into the mainstream every day. Queer stories are more visible than ever in media, social media stars are capitalizing on queer trends to garner clout, and A-Listers are publicly celebrating their queerness — everywhere you look, the restrictive tradition of heteronormative masculinity is quickly becoming outmoded. Our panel of sexual educators and experts will discuss the wide acceptance of a new kind of amorphous sexual expression, the simultaneous importance and triviality of labels, and the way technology has pushed this revolution forward. 

Nov. 1, 2021 

Alexander Cheves is named to the Out 100 for 2021, Out Magazine's annual list of the 100 most influential LGBTQ+ people

Today Out began the rollout of their annual Out 100 list, a list of LGBTQ+ leaders and changemakers who “made us proud . . . in their local communities or on the world stage.” So far, their cover stars include RuPaul’s Drag Race winner Symone, Cassandra Peterson (better known as Elvira), and celebrity stylist and Legendary judge Law Roach, though they have yet to announce their full list. But today, they released their list of “the queer titans of media” on this year’s Out 100, and it features four writers: New York Times columnist and nonfiction writer Charles M. Blow, memoirist and sex educator Alexander Cheves, memoirist George M. Johnson, and writer and Electric Literature editor-in-chief Denne Michele Norris. 

Here is Out’s citation for Alexander Cheves, in part:

Although barely 30, Cheves has offered advice related to queer sex since his intern days at The Advocate and later through his popular blog, Love, Beastly, where folks of every age can learn about better bottoming and kink culture alike.

Cheves’s life experiences are chronicled in his new memoir, My Love Is a Beast: Confessions, detailing his upbringing on a farm by Christian missionaries alongside his queer sexual awakening. The book—already in its second printing from Unbound Edition Press and promoted by Cheves in venues like the Folsom Street Fair and fisting festivals—is a hit, which surprised Cheves . . .

Cheves credits the “men of previous generations” for their support. “They gave me my identity, my HIV meds, and my ability to live as openly as I do, and so much of queer male culture abandons and isolates these great men, these fighters and survivors. I cannot do that—I was raised by them,” he says. “So this book is my love letter . . . [to them and anyone who] journeys to find where they fit. That’s all my story is, just with more lube.”

(Written by Walker Kaplan for Lit Hub.)

Sept. 22, 2021 

Alexander Cheves will appear in the Netflix special Sex: Unzipped, hosted by hip-hop star Saweetie

The streaming service that brought you Sex Education, Sex/Life, and Sex, Explained has just announced Sex: Unzipped. The comedy special, hosted by Saweetie, will focus on sex-positivity with sex experts, horny puppets of all “sex and sexualities that exist in real life,” and talking heads with special guests Dominique Jackson, Ian Karmel, Joel Kim Booster, Katherine Ryan, London Hughes, Mae Martin, Michelle Buteau, Nikki Glaser, Romesh Ranganathan, Sam Jay, and Trixie Mattel. Sex experts include Alexander Cheves, Emily Morse, Oloni, and Stella Anna Sonnenbaum. Learn the ropes from Saweetie and crew on October 26, only on Netflix. 

Sept. 8, 2021 

Unbound Edition Press announces its fall 2021 book tour for queer authors, in partnership with The Advocate and Out Magazine

Unbound Edition Press today announced a 10-city fall book tour in support of its queer authors and titles, supported nationwide by The Advocate and Out Magazine. The tour kicks off in Los Angeles on September 22, 2021 with exclusive interviews and discussions from the editors of The Advocate and Out Magazine. It concludes in New York City on November 5, 2021 at a special event hosted by the Nasty Pig brand. The tour will highlight new books by Alexander Cheves, Carlo Matos, and Sophia Anfinn Tonnessen.

My Love Is a Beast: Confessions by Alexander Cheves presents an emotionally rich coming-of-age memoir sharing the author’s journey of being a rural, Queer kid who finds his way through the fetish and kink world, and rises to national prominence as one of America’s leading sex writers. The book has been called “a rare memoir…a page turner…a must read,” (Diane Anderson-Minshall) and is predicted to “catapult to the top of Queer book offerings.” (Race Bannon)

We Prefer the Damned by Carlo Matos, the author’s 11th book, offers a collection of poems exploring bisexual identity, relationships, erasure, and denial — and how Matos’s Portuguese heritage informs his understanding of the bi/poly/pan experience. A former MMA fighter, Matos’s collection has been described as fueled by “unsparing love poems with a fierce fighter’s joy at their core.” (Paula Neves)

Ecologia by Sophia Anfinn Tonnessen tracks the poet’s transition and is noteworthy for its experimental forms, long poems, and intentional repetitions. Her collection explores the intersections of gender, identity, and memory across time. The poems soar in songs of celebration and protest, within a form that can best be described as the trans-lyric. Bodies, texts, memories, flowers all transform throughout the work, which brings a mystery and wonder to the collection. Her work has been called “gorgeous and invigorating” and “an entirely original contribution to the mosaic of American poetry.” (Peter Campion)

Los Angeles | Wednesday, September 22, 2021 | 7 PM (Pacific)

Eagle LA (hosted by The Advocate and Out Magazine)

San Francisco | Thursday, September 23, 2021 | 7 PM (Pacific)

Center for Sex & Culture

San Francisco | Sunday, September 26, 2021 | All Day (Pacific)

Folsom Street Presents MEGAHOOD2021 Booth

Portland, OR | Tuesday, September 28, 2021 | 7 PM (Pacific)

Q Center

Augusta, GA | Friday, October 8, 2021 | 11 AM (Eastern)

Metropolis Complex (for special weekend event pass-holders only)

Atlanta | Tuesday, October 12, 2021 | 7 PM (Eastern)

Larger event venue to be announced soon

Savannah, GA | Sunday, October 17, 2021 | 4 PM (Eastern)

First City Pride Center

Minneapolis, MN | Wednesday, October 20, 2021 | 7 PM (Central)

University of Minnesota

Chicago | Thursday, October 21, 2021 | 7 PM (Central)

The Martin (hosted by The Guild Complex Presents Exhibit B)

Ann Arbor, MI | Wednesday, November 3, 2021 | 7 PM (Central)

Literati Bookstore (Virtual Event)

New York City | Friday, November 5, 2021 | 7 PM (Eastern)

Nasty Pig Headquarters (hosted by Nasty Pig)

Sept. 5, 2021 

Fist Fest will host kink writer and author Alexander Cheves for a reading and signing of his upcoming book, My Love Is a Beast: Confessions

Unbound Edition Press, a new sponsor for OctoberFFest by Fist Fest,  publishes Alexander Cheves, one of America’s leading sex writers and a dedicated FF player. His book, My Love Is a Beast: Confessions, is an emotionally rich coming-of-age story sharing Alexander’s journey of being a rural, queer kid who finds his way into the fetish, kink, and fisting world. You may know him from his widely-read work in both The Advocate and Out Magazine, and through his Love, Beastly sex advice blog. Kink community leader Race Bannon predicts My Love Is a Beast: Confessions “will catapult to the top of queer book offerings.” Other reviewers have called it “a page turner...a must read.” Cheves will do a reading and book signing on Weekend 2 of OctoberFFest. 

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