The Advocate and Out Magazine present | Alexander Cheves, My Love Is a Beast: Confessions, and Sophia Anfinn Tonnessen, Ecologia: Reading, Discussion, and Book Signing

Center for Sex & Culture, San Francisco, CA • September 23, 2021 

The Center for Sex & Culture hosts an evening with Alexander Cheves, one of America's most popular sex columnists and author of My Love Is a Beast: Confessions, and Sophia Anfinn Tonnessen, transgender poet and author of the poetry collection Ecologia, both publishing this fall from Unbound Edition Press. 

The Advocate and Out Magazine present | Alexander Cheves, My Love Is a Beast: Confessions: Reading, Discussion, and Book Signing

Eagle L.A., Los Angeles, CA • September 22, 2021 

In partnership with The Advocate and Out Magazine, enjoy an evening at the Eagle L.A. with Alexander Cheves, one of America's most popular sex columnists. Cheves is best known as a contributing editor at The Advocate and his widely read "Sexy Beast" column. He is presently a columnist for Out Magazine and also runs the Love, Beastly advice blog, notable for its frank, unflinching answers to questions about Queer sex. 

Across his debut book, My Love Is a Beast: Confessions, Cheves details his path from piousness to faithlessness, and his awakening to the saving power of hedonism.

The evening will include Cheves reading from his new book. There will be a discussion, Q & A session, and a meet-and-greet with the author.

Attendees will be able to purchase and have Cheves sign copies of the book, which can be pre-ordered here now. Limited supply and one-touch ordering will also be available at the event.

Guest, Good Sex 

June 2021 

I talked about fisting (and more) on the Good Sex podcast from Lemonada Media. The cool humans there made me the introductory episode of Season Two! Listen wherever you catch your podcasts.  

Guest speaker, Paul Bright Films  

May 2021 

In my conversation with Paul Bright, a writer and director of various gay indie films, we  talked about how sex scenes in gay-themed movies don’t show what really happens, returning to an active sex life after COVID-19 lockdown, and my upcoming book. Listen or watch

Panelist, "Let's Talk About: Sex," hosted by PERIOD. The Menstrual Movement 

Auburn, AL • November 2020 

I spoke on a digital sex education panel hosted by PERIOD., a global youth-led organization that provides sex education and menstrual products to humans in need. The panel included representatives of an Auburn, Alabama rape crisis center and Auburn University students and focused on the importance of consent in competent sex education. 

Speaker, "Leatherman's Discussion Group (LDG) Presents: An Intimate Conversation with Alexander 'Beastly' Cheves" 

San Francisco, CA • February 2020 

I spoke at the largest community discussion group for leather, kink, and fetish issues in the United States about my work in queer media, the epidemic of substance abuse among queer men, and my upcoming book. See more here

Guest writer, "Savage Love" in The Stranger 

Seattle, WA • January 2019

As a guest on Dan Savage's popular sex and relationship advice column "Savage Love," I helped answer a reader-submitted question about finding porn in an era of stringent internet censorship. Read it here

Guest speaker, Loveline with Dr. Chris Donaghue 

January 2019 

I spoke with Dr. Chris Donaghue, award-winning author of Rebel Love and Sex Outside the Lines, on the famous radio call-in program Loveline about the dangers of internet censorship. Listen here.

Guest speaker, Savage Lovecast with Dan Savage 

Episode #635 • December 2018

On my second visit to Dan Savage's hit podcast, I explained the disaster of Tumblr's porn ban and discussed my Out Magazine article, "The Dangerous Trend of LGBTQ Censorship on the Internet." Listen here

Panelist, "HIV/AIDS Healthcare Challenges" at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai 

New York, NY • March 2018 

I spoke with medical students on a panel that included prominent AIDS activists, long-term HIV/AIDS survivors, PrEP advocates, and other public health workers on the challenges and successes of modern HIV care and prevention. 

Guest judge, Los Angeles Puppy Pride

Los Angeles • November 2017

I was a contest judge at Los Angeles Puppy Pride, a leather and fetish pageant garnering contestants from across California. 

Guest speaker, Savage Lovecast with Dan Savage 

Episode #565 • August 2017

I spoke with author and renowned advice columnist Dan Savage on his popular podcast about my article "Straight Folks, There Are Some Spaces You Don't Belong In." Listen here

Guest speaker, The Swinger Lifestyle on City World Radio Network 

May 2017 

I spoke with representatives of the New York City swingers community about the importance of protecting Queer spaces. Listen on or

Guest speaker, The Shaun Proulx Show on Sirius XM Canada Talks 

February 2017 

I spoke with the delightful Shaun Proulx, Canada’s "gay Oprah," on his show on Sirius XM Canada Talks about George Michael's passing and the misconceptions of drug use among Queer men. 

Speaker and award recipient, SCAD Student Club of the Year Awards 

Savannah, GA • November 2015 

During my presidency of SCAD Queers & Allies, the LGBTQ+ student support organization of the Savannah College of Art & Design, the club won multiple awards and distinctions and raised the most funds for Relay for Life, garnering the Student Club of the Year Award. 

Reader and award recipient, Artemis Awards 2014 

Savannah, Georgia •  May 2014 

Several of my poems and short stories were published between 2010 and 2014 in Artemis, the annual student literary publication of the Savannah College of Art & Design. At the 2014 awards ceremony, I was invited to read multiple selections of my work. 

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