appearances

Dec. 5, 2021 • Chicago, IL 

Reading and book signing at the Leather Archives & Museum 

Journalist, queer sex columnist, and author Alexander Cheves will be reading from his new book, My Love Is a Beast: Confessions, at the Leather Archives & Museum Holiday Fetish Fair. 

Nov. 12, 2021 • New York, NY 

Quarto Magazine at Columbia University hosts Unbound Edition Press: readings from Alexander Cheves, Sophia Anfinn Tonnessen, and Carlo Matos (virtual event) 

Join us online as Quarto Magazine hosts a virtual reading and discussion with three queer authors from Unbound Edition Press.

Nov. 5, 2021 • New York, NY 

Nasty Pig hosts a reading, discussion, and book signing with Alexander Cheves, author of My Love Is a Beast: Confessions (official book tour closeout event) 

Nasty Pig hosts an evening with Alexander Cheves, one of America's most popular sex columnists — and occasional copywriter for the legendary gay clothing brand — at their new headquarters in New York City. 

Nov. 3, 2021 • Ann Arbor, MI 

Literati Bookstore hosts three queer authors from Unbound Edition Press (virtual event) 

Ann Arbor's beloved Literati Bookstore hosts a virtual reading and discussion with authors Alexander Cheves, Sophia Anfinn Tonnessen, and Carlo Matos as they launch bold new work from Unbound Edition Press.

Nov. 1, 2021 • New York, NY 

Miss Manhattan Non-Fiction Reading Series 

Elyssa Goodman and R. C. Gstaad present the Miss Manhattan non-fiction reading series featuring writers David Gutowski, Alexander Cheves, and Alison Kinney. 

Oct. 26, 2021 

Sex expert, Sex Unzipped: A Netflix Comedy Special 

Rap superstar Saweetie hosts a celebration of sexual health and positivity with help from expert sex educators including Dr. Ruth, Dami "Oloni" Olonisakin, and Alexander Cheves, along with candid comedians and uninhibited puppets. Watch it only on Netflix. 

Oct. 21, 2021 • Chicago, IL 

Exhibit B at The Martin hosts Unbound Edition Press: readings from Alexander Cheves, Sophia Anfinn Tonnessen, and Carlo Matos

The Guild Complex and Exhibit B hosts a reading and discussion with queer authors Alexander Cheves, Sophia Anfinn Tonnessen, and Carlo Matos at the Martin in Chicago. 

Oct. 20, 2021 • Minneapolis, MN 

Great River Review at the University of Minnesota hosts three queer authors: reading, discussion, and book signing in the Arthur Upson Room at Walter Library 

Great River Review hosts a reading and discussion with queer authors Alexander Cheves, Sophia Anfinn Tonnessen, and Carlo Matos as they launch bold new work from Unbound Edition Press. 

Oct. 17, 2021

Guest, The Shaun Proulx Show on SiriusXM Canada Talks 

From Shaun Proulx: "Special guest is sex writer Alexander Cheves. His debut book My Love Is A Beast: Confessions is out now and we talk, what else? Sex. Sex panics, pandemic sex, and more sex, in a for-real way you won’t get anywhere else." Catch it on SiriusXM Ch.167 or any time on the SXM App.

Oct. 16, 2021 • Savannah, GA 

Club One on Jeffersons presents Alexander Cheves, author of My Love Is a Beast: Confessions: reading, discussion and book signing

Savannah's famous Club One on Jefferson hosts an evening with Alexander Cheves, one of America's most popular sex columnists, on the world-famous Club One cabaret stage — where the late icon The Lady Chablis performed her notorious weekend show. Cheves is a graduate of the Savannah College of Art & Design (SCAD).

Oct. 12, 2021 

Guest, Savage Lovecast with Dan Savage (episode #781) 

My latest chat with Dan Savage was released on my book's publication day. For his Second Opinion segment — available to Magnum subscribers — we discussed hooking up with Trump voters, how desire for kink emerges early in life, whether it is "urbanist" to advise rural gay folks to move to cities, and my new book, My Love Is a Beast: Confessions. Listen at savage.love or wherever you catch your podcasts. 

Oct. 12, 2021 • Atlanta, GA 

Official Publication Day for My Love Is a Beast: Confessions by Alexander Cheves: reading, discussion, and book signing at Theatrical Outfit

In partnership with The Advocate and Out Magazine, Atlanta's Theatrical Outfit, one of the city's premiere performance venues, hosts an evening with Alexander Cheves, one of America's most popular sex columnists. Cheves is best known as a contributing editor at The Advocate and his widely read "Sexy Beast" column. This event marks the official publication day of his debut book, My Love Is a Beast: Confessions

Oct. 8, 2021 • Augusta, GA 

Fist Fest hosts sex writer Alexander Cheves: reading, discussion, and book signing of My Love Is a Beast: Confessions 

I was proud to read a steamy chapter of my new book with my fisting brothers at the fall gathering of Fist Fest — callled OctoberFFist — at the Metropolis Complex in Augusta, GA. 

Oct. 6, 2021 • Savannah, GA 

Virtual discussion and Q & A with students at the Savannah College of Art & Design (SCAD), facilitated by Chris Millis

I was honored to be invited to speak at my alma mater for a virtual Q & A with students taught by Chris Millis, chair of the SCAD writing department and author of Small Apartments and God and California. 

Sept. 29, 2021 • Portland, OR 

Alexander Cheves, My Love Is a Beast: Confessions: reading, discussion and book signing at Eagle Portland, in partnership with The Advocate and Out Magazine 

In partnership with The Advocate and Out Magazine, enjoy an evening at the Eagle Portland with Alexander Cheves, one of America's most popular sex columnists. Cheves is best known as a contributing editor at The Advocate and his widely read "Sexy Beast" column. He is presently a columnist for Out Magazine, and he is a recipient of a 2021 Excellence in Journalism award from the National Lesbian and Gay Journalists Association.

Sept. 28, 2021 • Portland, OR 

Reading, discussion and book signing at Q Center, in partnership with Another Read Through Books

Q Center Portland, in partnership with Another Read Through Books, hosts an evening with Alexander Cheves, one of America's most popular sex columnists and author of My Love Is a Beast: Confessions, and Sophia Anfinn Tonnessen, transgender poet and author of the poetry collection Ecologia, both publishing this fall from Unbound Edition Press.  

Sept. 26, 2021 • San Francisco, CA 

Book signing at the Folsom Street Fair

I was honored to sign copies of my new book at the Unbound Edition Press booth at the Folsom Street Fair, an annual gathering of kink and leather folk that holds so much meaning and significance in my life. Unbound Edition Press made history as the first literary press represented at the fair, which is the world's largest leather and fetish event. 

Sept. 23, 2021 • San Francisco, CA 

Reading, discussion and book signing at the Center for Sex & Culture Library, hosted by Folsom Street Events

The Center for Sex & Culture library at Folsom Street Events hosts an evening with Alexander Cheves, one of America's most popular sex columnists and author of My Love Is a Beast: Confessions, and Sophia Anfinn Tonnessen, transgender poet and author of the poetry collection Ecologia, both publishing this fall from Unbound Edition Press. 

Sept. 22, 2021 • Los Angeles, CA 

Book Tour Launch Event: reading, discussion and book signing at Eagle L.A., in partnership with The Advocate and Out Magazine

Enjoy an evening at the Eagle L.A. with Alexander Cheves, one of America's most popular sex columnists. Cheves is best known as a contributing editor at The Advocate and his widely read "Sexy Beast" column. The evening will include Cheves reading from his new book. There will be a discussion, Q & A session, and a meet-and-greet with the author.

Sept. 21, 2021 

Guest writer, "Savage Love" 

I again helped Dan Savage with a reader-submitted question on "Savage Love," the internationally syndicated "weekly sex advice column that started it all." For the post titled "Power Tripping," we discussed the plight of a self-described straight man whose kink involves teasing, tempting, and ultimately denying queer men. Read it here.

June 15, 2021

Guest, Good Sex 

I talked about fisting (and more) on the Good Sex podcast from Lemonada Media. The awesome folks there made me the introductory episode of Season Two! Listen wherever you catch your podcasts.  

May 29, 2021 

Guest, Paul Bright Films  

In my conversation with Paul Bright, a writer and director of gay indie films, we  talked about how sex scenes in gay-themed movies don’t show what really happens, returning to an active sex life after COVID-19 lockdown, and my upcoming book. Listen or watch

Nov. 9, 2020 • Auburn, AL 

Panelist, "Let's Talk About: Sex," hosted by PERIOD. The Menstrual Movement 

I spoke on a digital sex education panel hosted by PERIOD., a global youth-led organization that provides sex education and menstrual products to humans in need. The panel included representatives of an Auburn, Alabama rape crisis center and Auburn University students and focused on the importance of consent in competent sex education. 

Feb. 26, 2020 • San Francisco, CA 

Speaker, "Leatherman's Discussion Group (LDG) Presents: An Intimate Conversation with Alexander 'Beastly' Cheves" at SF Catalyst 

I spoke at the largest community discussion group for leather, kink, and fetish issues in the United States about my work in queer media, the epidemic of substance abuse among queer men, and my upcoming book. See more here

Jan. 2019

Guest writer, "Savage Love"  

As a guest on Dan Savage's popular sex and relationship advice column "Savage Love," I helped answer a reader-submitted question about finding porn in an era of stringent (and worsening) internet censorship. Read it here

Jan. 2019

Guest, Loveline with Dr. Chris Donaghue 

I spoke with Dr. Chris Donaghue, award-winning author of Rebel Love and Sex Outside the Lines, on the famous radio call-in program Loveline about the dangers of internet censorship. Listen here.

Dec. 2018 

Guest, Savage Lovecast with Dan Savage (Episode #635) 

On my second visit to Dan Savage's globally syndicated podcast, I explained the disaster of Tumblr's porn ban and discussed my Out Magazine article, "The Dangerous Trend of LGBTQ Censorship on the Internet." Listen here

March 2018 • New York, NY 

Panelist, "HIV/AIDS Healthcare Challenges" at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai 

I spoke with medical students on a panel that included prominent AIDS activists, long-term HIV/AIDS survivors, PrEP advocates, and other public health workers on the challenges and successes of modern HIV care and prevention. The panel discussion was followed by a Q & A with the students.  

Nov. 2017 • Los Angeles, CA 

Guest judge, Los Angeles Puppy Pride

I was a contest judge at Los Angeles Puppy Pride, a leather and fetish pageant garnering contestants from across California. 

August 2017 

Guest, Savage Lovecast with Dan Savage (Episode #565)

I spoke with author and renowned advice columnist Dan Savage on his popular podcast about my article "Straight Folks, There Are Some Spaces You Don't Belong In" and the importance of preserving queer spaces — especially the ones that make straight people uncomfortable. Listen here

May 2017

Guest, The Swinger Lifestyle on City World Radio Network 

I spoke with representatives of the New York City swingers community about the importance of protecting queer spaces. Listen on CityWorldRadio.com or AdultSocials.com.

Feb. 2017 

Guest, The Shaun Proulx Show on SiriusXM Canada Talks 

I spoke with the delightful Shaun Proulx, Canada’s "gay Oprah," on his show on Sirius XM Canada Talks about George Michael's passing and the misconceptions of drug use among queer men. 

Nov. 2015 • Savannah, GA 

Speaker and award recipient, SCAD Student Club of the Year Awards 

During my presidency of SCAD Queers & Allies, the LGBTQ+ student support organization of the Savannah College of Art & Design, the club won multiple awards and distinctions and raised the most funds for Relay for Life, garnering the Student Club of the Year Award. 

May 2014 • Savannah, GA 

Reader and award recipient, Artemis Awards 2014 

Several of my poems and short stories were published between 2010 and 2014 in Artemis, the annual student literary publication of the Savannah College of Art & Design. At the 2014 awards ceremony, I was invited to read multiple selections of my work. 

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