appearances

Sept. 17, 2022 • Dublin, Ireland 

Speaker at the International Dublin Writers' Festival 

Aug. 5, 2022 • Montreal, Canada 

Reading and book signing at Chez Priape, a men's fetish boutique

Details TBA. 

July 29 - Aug. 2, 2022 • Montreal, Canada 

Guest and panelist at the For Fuck's Sake Summit — a gathering of sex activists and educators committed to sex-positive, queer-inclusive HIV/AIDS discourse — organized by MPACT Global Action 

June 18, 2022 • Fire Island Pines, New York 

Book signing at the Fire Island Pines General Store

The Pines have been a place of refuge and love for me during my New York years, as it has been for so many generations of gay men. It is a great honor to have my book for sale at the famous General Store.

May 5, 2022 • New York, New York 

"A MOUTH FULL: Queer Storytelling Hour" at Eagle NYC, organized by Dusty Shoulders

I am honored to be joining this new queer storytelling event making its debut at the New York Eagle. 

April 29, 2022 • Augusta, Georgia 

Reading, discussion, and book signing at Fist Fest 2022

Thanks for inviting me back. 

April 9, 2022 • Palm Springs, California 

Book reading and signing at the second annual Desert Bloom fisting weekend, hosted by Reegür   

I will also be co-hosting two harm-reduction and sobriety meetings for sober and moderating pigs. 

March 17, 2022 • Austin, Texas

Panelist, "Tech and the New Fluidity of Male Sexuality" at SXSW, hosted by Sniffies 

The rigidity around male sexuality is crumbling. Now more than ever, attitudes around sexuality are more liberated, mercurial, and permeable. The panel of sexual educators and experts will discuss the acceptance of a new kind of amorphous sexual expression, the simultaneous importance and triviality of labels, and the ways technology has pushed this cultural revolution forward. I am honored to join advice columnist Zachary Zane and nonbinary writer-activist Jacob Tobia. 

Dec. 5, 2021 • Chicago, Illinois 

Reading, discussion, and book signing at the Leather Archives & Museum 

I am honored to do a reading and discussion in such an important space that has so meticulously archived the history and culture of leather and kink.

Nov. 12, 2021 • New York, New York 

Quarto Magazine at Columbia University hosts three queer authors from Unbound Edition Press 

I join my fellow Unbound Edition Press authors Sophia Anfinn Tonnessen, a graduate of Columbia University, and Carlo Matos in reading selections from our new books. 

Nov. 5, 2021 • New York, New York 

Book tour closeout event: Nasty Pig hosts Alexander Cheves, author of My Love Is a Beast: Confessions 

Nasty Pig, a legacy gay apparel brand, graciously hosts a closeout reading and party in New York City at their new Manhattan HQ. 

Nov. 3, 2021 • Ann Arbor, Michigan 

Literati Bookstore hosts three queer authors from Unbound Edition Press

Reading and book signing with press mates Sophia Anfinn Tonnessen and Carlo Matos. 

Nov. 1, 2021 • New York, New York 

Miss Manhattan Non-Fiction Reading Series 

Honored to read alongside fabulous nonfiction writers David Gutowski and Alison Kinney. 

Oct. 26, 2021 

Sex expert, Sex Unzipped: A Netflix Comedy Special 

Rap superstar Saweetie hosts a celebration of sexual health and positivity with help from expert sex educators including Dr. Ruth, Dami "Oloni" Olonisakin, and Alexander Cheves alongside candid comedians and uninhibited puppets. Talking heads include Trixie Mattel, Nikki Glaser, Dominique Jackson, Mae Martin, and Michelle Buteau. Only on Netflix. 

Oct. 21, 2021 • Chicago, Illinois 

Exhibit B at The Martin hosts three queer authors from Unbound Edition Press

I am joining press mates Sophia Anfinn Tonnessen and Carlo Matos at The Martin in Chicago for a reading and book signing hosted by the Guild Complex and Exhibit B. 

Oct. 20, 2021 • Minneapolis, Minnesota 

Great River Review at the University of Minnesota hosts three queer authors from Unbound Edition Press 

Joining press mates Sophia Anfinn Tonnessen and Carlo Matos in reading selections from our new books from Unbound Edition Press. 

Oct. 16, 2021 • Savannah, Georgia 

Club One on Jefferson hosts an evening with Alexander Cheves, author of My Love Is a Beast: Confessions

I am excited to return to my one-time home for a reading and discussion at the city's premier queer nightspot — and my first gay bar. I will be reading on the world-famous Club One cabaret stage where the late icon The Lady Chablis performed her notorious weekend show.

Oct. 12, 2021 • Atlanta, Georgia 

Publication day for My Love Is a Beast: Confessions by Alexander Cheves: reading, discussion, and book signing at Theatrical Outfit 

Official publication day of my debut book, My Love Is a Beast: Confessions. This event will include a reading and book signing and is in partnership with The Advocate and Out Magazine. 

Oct. 8, 2021 • Augusta, Georgia 

Fist Fest hosts sex writer Alexander Cheves: reading, discussion, and book signing

I am honored to be invited to read a chapter of my new book — which details my journey into the fisting community — at the fall gathering of Fist Fest 2021 in Augusta, Georgia. 

Oct. 6, 2021 • Savannah, Georgia  

Discussion and Q&A with students at the Savannah College of Art & Design, facilitated by Chris Millis

I am speaking at my alma mater for a virtual Q&A with students in the writing program of the Savannah College of Art & Design. The discussion is facilitated by Chris Millis, chair of the department and award-winning author of Small Apartments and God and California. 

Sept. 29, 2021 • Portland, Oregon 

Eagle Portland hosts author Alexander Cheves: reading, discussion and book signing

This event is in partnership with The Advocate and Out Magazine

Sept. 28, 2021 • Portland, Oregon 

Q Center Portland hosts authors Alexander Cheves and Sophia Anfinn Tonnessen: reading, discussion, and book signing, in partnership with Another Read Through Books

I am joining my press mate Sophia Anfinn Tonnessen, transgender poet and author of the poetry collection Ecologia. 

Sept. 26, 2021 • San Francisco, California 

Book signing at the Folsom Street Fair

I am signing copies of my book My Love Is a Beast: Confessions at the Unbound Edition Press booth at the Folsom Street Fair — an annual gathering of kinksters and leatherfolk that has had a profound impact on my life. My first Folsom was transformative, and every visit since has been a vital reconnection with my community. Unbound Edition Press will made history as the first book press represented at the fair. 

Sept. 23, 2021 • San Francisco, California 

Folsom Street Events hosts sex writer Alexander Cheves: reading, discussion, and book signing at the Center for Sex & Culture library and archives 

I will be reading a selection from my new book My Love Is a Beast: Confessions, publishing this fall from Unbound Edition Press. The reading will be followed by a Q&A and book signing. 

Sept. 22, 2021 • Los Angeles, California 

Book tour launch event: The Eagle Los Angeles hosts Alexander Cheves for a reading, discussion, and book signing in partnership with The Advocate and Out Magazine 

I am exited to launch my national book tour in Los Angeles, where my writing career started with an internship at The Advocate. The reading will be followed by a discussion and Q&A session. 

Sept. 21, 2021 

Guest writer, "Savage Love" in The Stranger 

I help Dan Savage with another reader-submitted question on "Savage Love," his internationally syndicated sex advice column. For the post "Power Tripping," we discuss the plight of a self-described straight man whose kink involves dominating — and denying — queer men. Read it here.

Nov. 9, 2020 • Auburn, Alabama 

Panelist, "Let's Talk About: Sex," hosted by PERIOD. The Menstrual Movement 

I am speaking on a virtual panel hosted by PERIOD., a global youth-led organization that provides sex education and menstrual products to humans in need. The panel will include representatives of an Auburn, Alabama rape crisis center and Auburn University students and will be focused on the need for comprehensive sex education. 

Feb. 26, 2020 • San Francisco, California 

Leatherman's Discussion Group (LDG) Presents: An Intimate Conversation with Alexander "Beastly" Cheves

I am honored to to speak at the largest community discussion group for leather, kink, and fetish issues in the U.S. The presentation will include an intimate Q&A about my work in queer media, the epidemic of substance abuse among queer men, and my upcoming book. Watch it here

Jan. 2, 2019 

Guest writer, "Savage Love" in The Stranger 

As a guest on Dan Savage's popular sex and relationship advice column "Savage Love," I help answer a reader's question about finding porn in an era of stringent (and worsening) internet censorship. Read it here

March 2018 • New York, New York

Panelist, "HIV/AIDS Healthcare Challenges" at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai 

I will speak on a panel that includes legacy HIV/AIDS activists, long-term AIDS survivors, PrEP advocates, and public health workers. We will discuss the challenges and successes of modern HIV care and prevention. The panel discussion followed by a Q&A with students. 

Nov. 9-12, 2017 • Los Angeles, California 

Guest judge, Los Angeles Puppy Pride

I am a contest judge at Los Angeles Puppy Pride, a leather and fetish pageant garnering contestants across California. 

Nov. 2015 • Savannah, Georgia 

Speaker and award recipient, SCAD Student Club of the Year Awards 

During my three-year presidency of SCAD Queers & Allies — the LGBTQ+ student support group of the Savannah College of Art & Design — the club garnered multiple awards. Our success in raising the most money for Relay for Life and the fight against cancer garnered the Student Club of the Year Award. 

May 2014 • Savannah, Georgia 

Reader and award recipient, Artemis Awards 2014 

Several poems and short fiction pieces were published between 2010 and 2014 in Artemis, the student literary publication of the Savannah College of Art & Design. At the 2014 awards ceremony, I was invited to read multiple selections of my work. 

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